Ever been to a restaurant or café that is the latest big thing?
All your friends have been to it already and have raved.
You finally get there, your food come out, and suddenly you have no idea what all the fuss is about.
Your expectations were high and you are now dealing with disappointment.
When we are leading people we have to try and avoid this situation, because there is so much more at stake than the cost of dinner.
Here is a few thoughts on Keeping it Real in no particular order
- We have to explain the expectations – especially when they are volunteering – people need to know how much time they will be giving, what to wear, when they will eat, what they will be doing. These practicalities communicate to people that you value them and are looking after them.
- We have to be real with the things that we have control over. I often tell the College students I cannot get our local bus lines to put a bus route to our Campus – I have no authority over them – and I have called and asked but to no avail. I want the bus to stop outside College but it won’t help anyone if I promise what I surely cannot deliver.
- We have to be realistic about what we can give of our time to the people we are leading. If we set up an expectation that we cannot meet, it might make us feel good when we are making the promise – but we will lose people’s trust when we can’t deliver.
- Help people to be realistic about people in leadership – honouring is so important – but it cannot lead to a zone where perfection is expected. People are people- they have different roles- but this side of heaven none of them are without failings and flaws. To expect perfection of leaders is incredibly unfair to them.
We have to keep it real – and still have faith in the mix. It’s a tricky balance and depending on our personality we will tip over into either hyper faith or negativity.
When people’s expectations are not met they deal with a whole range of emotions from mild disappointment to a total break of trust.
Lets be realistic with people- and treat them with the respect they deserve. Lets be filled with faith but real. I love the verse that says Abraham considered his body as good as dead but still believed God. He was real and in faith!
One day I’ll get the balance right- what about you ?
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