Tough Conversations – Why Have Them ?
If you have been in any sort of leadership or management longer than 10 minutes you know you will need to have tough conversations with people at some point.
No-one wants to have them because they are tough.
They are tough on the people delivering them and tougher on the people receiving them.
I have been on the receiving end of some very tough conversations- some of them I am eternally grateful for – others took a while to work through. Sometimes when I have been on the receiving end I have been a total brat to the poor person delivering the bad news !
I have lately been on the giving end of some tough conversations Sometimes I handle them well – sometimes I don’t. Sometimes people receive them well –sometimes they don’t.
I have thought through the reasons why I would have the tough conversations- because really we would all rather avoid them. Some are crucial some are not.
Three Good Reasons to have the Tough Conversation
1. I care too much about the person to not say something about a blind spot or a mistake they are repeatedly making which is putting a ceiling over their life or causing them to damage their own reputation unnecessarily.
2. I care too much about the people around the situation – the person is doing damage to the people on their team because I don’t have the courage to work through an issue in their world.
3. I care too much about our church/ department/ organisation because without the tough conversation our organisation will be damaged or compromised because a person will continue to cause the same problems.
Even after this process – we need to tread carefully and prayfully into the tough conversations – so that they become something a person is eternally grateful for (if not immediately at least in the long run) .
Next week – some tips on the tough conversations .
So glad so many of you enjoyed hearing from Kelly Taylor last week- she is one incredible woman of God. If you are in London- go visit C3 London (http://www.c3london.com) and you will see her and her husband Mike in action- you will also hear some of the finest preaching around as Ps Simon and Valerie McIntyre (http://simonmcintyredotnet.wordpress.com) lead that great church.
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