This week my iPhone froze – it just wouldn’t do anything – after a few frustrating minutes I realised I had not turned it off for weeks and it probably needed a reset. So I turned it off, allowed it, some downtime and when I turned it back on it was back to normal.
I wonder if sometimes we need to do the same thing, stop, turn off and reset.
I have done that today – and with some help from staff sending me texts telling me to get off email when I was supposed to be having leave yesterday and today- I have realised that I am suffering from boundary creep!
We have been through an unusually hectic time at work – and there are some very valid reasons why I needed to put in some extra time and effort . Some of the things I know are crucial to my life- like turning off work emails at night -have snuck back into my world while I wasn’t looking! Unless I stop and reset this will becomes a lifestyle (again!!)
I work with some people who have brilliant boundaries that rarely move – and I envy them. However I am sure some of you are like me and you suffer from creeping boundaries too.
Maybe it’s time to switch yourself off and go back to the boundaries you know are healthy. If you need some motivation- a reminder of somethings you know.
4 Reasons to Keep Healthy Boundaries
1) Without healthy boundaries you will be tired all the time and will actually need to work longer to achieve the results you want. Studies have shown our productivity decreases when we start doing long hours – we think it is achieving our goals but it is counter productive.
2) Without healthy boundaries you will become resentful and angry about the things that you actually love to do. The martyr complex sneaks in – and it is not pleasant.
3) Without healthy boundaries you will spend time at work that you should be spending with people in your world and relationships will suffer. Also when you are with your family and friends you will be irritable and tired (and you could lose it at your brother over something stupid like I did last week )
4) Without healthy boundaries you will not look after your own body and burn out or get sick.
So I am resetting my boundaries again – I am fighting the creep and putting the lines back in the sand. I know it will allow me to go the distance. I want a life like that photo I took at sunrise on Narrabeen Lake – full of colour, life and peace- can’t get it without having some things in order!
Are your boundaries creeping ?? What helps you to reset ?
Thank you for helping out, great information. “I have witnessed the softening of the hardest of hearts by a simple smile.” by Goldie Hawn.
don’t want to return to that ‘doormat’ … (hahah)
Ha- no I don’t